How To Stop Bullying?
Become a Stronger Character

You can learn how to stop bullying by turning yourself into a stronger person. Why does this work? Because bullies cannot affect you if you've built strength in yourself.

Becoming noticeably stronger is long-term - it doesn't happen overnight. 

But in time, you can turn yourself into someone mentally strong enough to resist bullying. When you've learnt to resist bullying, you've found out how to stop bullying. 

How to become a stronger person

If you turn yourself into a stronger character, typically you experience self improvement in 2 parts of yourself:

1. Your self confidence. You become more able to recognise, appreciate and use your good abilities

2. Your self esteem. You learn to love yourself more for who you are

People who get bullied usually have low confidence or low self esteem (perhaps even both). These are the 'weaknesses' that bullies look for when deciding who to pick on. If you lack self esteem or self confidence, then you've discovered why bullies choose you.

Why becoming a stronger character beats the bullies

Because bullies pick on the people who are weak characters - they do not bother the mentally strong. If you improve your self confidence and self esteem, you'll gain the strength to react to bullies in a way they dislike. 

How to know if you could be stronger? These two questions will answer that...

1. Do you really believe that you are capable of achieving good things in life?

2. Do you really appreciate, accept, even love, who you are in the world?

Be honest with your answers to those questions. 

If your answer to either question there was "no", then I'd have to say that I think your identity and character could be much stronger. 

If you answered no, then you probably are somewhat weak right now. This can be hard to accept, but accepting that parts of yourself need to improve is the first step to real, worthwhile growth. 

It is OK to admit weakness. Why is it OK? Because like I said, your character can be improved. It also takes strength to admit weakness. Weakness is never permanent - it just means that you have more room for growth than most in this area of your life.

When your answers to 1. & 2. are both "yes", you'll have the strength to:

When you can get yourself to do the above actions, you'll be putting into practice how to stop bullying...

High self esteem will allow your mind to dismiss a bully's nasty comments as false. Self confidence enables you to stand up to a bully, since you believe that you have the ability to handle him/her. Those are the displays of strength that make bullies realise they cannot pick on you anymore - because you will not react the way the bully enjoys you to.

"So the key in how to stop bullying is self improvement?"

Yes, because with your new inner strength, a bully cannot get the reaction from you that (s)he wants. You'll no longer have the weakness that bullies base their nasty actions towards.

Bullies pick on the people that they can 'put below them'. When you believe and love yourself more, you don't react to bullies the way they'd like you to. If you won't react to a bully's actions, the bully will stop - and move on to someone else.

Learning how to stop bullying is about making positive changes to yourself. It is NOT about stopping the bullies doing what they do. It is about making yourself bully-proof. Why can't you just get the person who bullies you to stop? Because other bullies would find the same weakness in you in the future. The problem only ends when you are too mentally strong for people to bully.

How To Stop Bullying: Short-Term

Given that the techniques I've outlined for how to stop bullying take time to work, you'll probably want something to instantly reduce the effects of bullying. Anything really worthwhile in life takes weeks or months, but there are still 2 things you can do to stop bullying now.

1. It helps massively to know why people bully. When you understand exactly why a bully does what (s)he does, you'll find that the comments they make don't hurt so much.

2. Start self defence classes. I cannot put into words what a positive difference this makes! I'd say learning to fight is the single best way to increase your self belief. Bullies do not mess with people who can handle themselves...

Sure, starting something new is kinda scary. But if you won't push through that fear of the new, then you obviously don't want to learn how to stop bullying that much.

When you push through fear, you prove to the world that you really want this change in your life. We can only bring positive change (e.g. to not get bullied anymore) if we take the actions to prove that we are worthy of that positive change (proof = overcoming fear, showing determination etc). It's the way the world works, and learning how to stop bullying is no different. 

Much Love

Sam

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