How To Love Yourself

Your bond with you is the most important relationship you'll ever have.

You can learn how to love yourself by doing 2 things:

1. Consciously look for reasons you should already love yourself

2. Shape your life in a way that allows you to find more reasons to love yourself

1. Why you should already love being you

Are you a good person? When you do things, are your intentions generally positive? Do you help people out; not for approval, but because something 'in you' makes you want to benefit the lives of others?

There ARE good things about you, whether you realise it or not. 

We tend to put less value on the things we personally do, because we can't see ourselves doing them from the outside, like others can. 

Here's some possible reasons that you should love yourself already. Some of these will apply to you, some might not:

You're not an axe murderer, are you? And you don't really wish harm on anyone? If your answers are "no" (I sincerely hope so!) then your bad side isn't that ugly.

Perhaps you get angry sometimes. Maybe at times you hurt people - although hurting them wasn't your intention. As a person, you might cause harm by getting emotionally carried away. Accept and embrace this 'imperfection' of humanity. You didn't mean it. You can't get everything right.

Even if sometimes you cause harm (to yourself or others), so long as your intention was NOT harm, you're still a good person. Good people are worthy of self love.

None of us are perfect - we are bound to screw things up, regularly. It is human nature to do so. But if our intentions are good, we deserve unconditional credit in the form of love to ourselves. You are a good person, you are enough, and because of that, you deserve to know how to love yourself.

If you're in fit bodily shape, you clearly look after yourself by eating well, exercising and generally nurturing your appearance. People who look after themselves this way possess one amazing, mutual personality trait: They are caring. They care about their own physical wellbeing.

If you care about yourself enough to wash daily, brush your teeth often and eat mostly healthy food, then you are in possession of the amazing characteristic: Being caring. That, by anyone's standards, is more than worthy of love. If you look after yourself physically, recognise that making yourself aware of this good trait you have, shows you how to love yourself.

I've already mentioned that you are worthy of self love, providing your intentions in everything you do, are good ones...

If you actively feel, or know, in your heart of hearts, that you want the world to improve, and that you would commit yourself to this cause if you thought you could make a difference, then you must understand that this is an amazing quality you've got.

If you feel it deep inside yourself that you have a 'want' for better in this world, then understand that this is a fantastic natural quality that you have. Why? 

Because that desire for 'better' IS your love expressing itself. If you want the world to be better, this is evidence that you ARE loving. If you are loving at your core like this, then you're an awesome person - you are certainly worthy of your own love.

As I said in this article's owner article The Meaning of Love, everyone on earth bleeds red, and everyone on earth values their family (love) more than anything.

You are part of a life where love overrides everything else. Forget anything that divides people. We're all part of the same love-driven system. You are a vital segment of a worldwide population that, despite setbacks, is essentially GOOD.

Knowing that you're an important part of a huge connection between everyone is a crucial part of learning how to love yourself. 

2. How to change so that you love yourself even better

Life experience has shown me that the more good things I do, the more my mind builds up a brighter perception of my identity. I strive to improve my mind's overview of my character. When my mind's outlook on who I am becomes stronger, I gain in self love.

The key to learning how to love yourself ever more, is to build on your mind's view of your identity in the world. 

If every day you can strive to better yourself and bring good to the world, increased self-love will be a natural side-effect.

Your mind will register in itself the new, positive self-aspects you are creating. Thus, your mind will see you in a more positive light. When the mind looks upon you in a positive light, it enables the identity you are building to connect and form a unity with your heart. This personal identity-to-heart connection is the essence of learning how to love yourself.

What specific actions can you take, that will lead to
increased self love?

Look after and be good to others. Prove even more that you are caring. 

The actual activities that you do to gain self love can only be decided by you because the same exact actions won't work for everyone. If you really want to learn how to love yourself, think constantly about ways you can become a better person. 

Once you've got ideas (could take months, but you'll be willing to wait if you really want to know how to love yourself), then implement these ideas into your life.

Essentially, strive to become a person that you would deem worthy of your own love.

If currently you can't love yourself, change. Grow. Improve. 

This is exactly what I'm doing. I've learnt how to love myself more and more by growing my confidence, helping others...Essentially I've made myself my own 'project'. 

If this 'project' is running well, love is flowing from me, to ME. 

Overall, learn to see the good in yourself. If you can't find enough evidence of good in yourself, find ways to improve. This will allow you to recieve ever-increasing amounts of your own love.

Much Love!

Sam

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