How To Build Self Confidence

You can successfully learn how to build self confidence using the following four powerful techniques:

1. Tell yourself positive thoughts about your abilities (even if you don't believe them!)

2. Picture yourself succeeding at things

3. Want this confidence badly enough

4. Fake high confidence. Pretend you've already got the self-belief that you want!

Why do these steps show you how to build self confidence?

1. Telling yourself positive things

Telling yourself positive thoughts about what you are capable of (confidence affirmations) can give you the push you need, to go out and try the very things you lack self confidence in.

How to build self confidence: Say to your mind things like "Come on, I can do this" or "I'm going to win at this!" 

Encouraging yourself in this way builds up your enthusiasm - so that you at least feel like giving things a go.

2. Picturing success

When you imagine your own successes, you get a small taster of what it would feel like to be that successful...

Your mind builds a sense of familiarity with success when you picture it happening to you. 

In your opinion, is it easier to get yourself to do things when you're more familiar with them? I would think your answer is "yes".

How to build self confidence: Before you attempt anything, imagine the best way this event could turn out. Picture the way you'll feel when you succeed. What will you be doing?

Try to diminish your doubts, yet keep imagining the best way things could happen. The more familiar your mind gets with such positive scenarios, the more likely you are to go out and have a go at the things you lack confidence in.

3. Showing your desire

You've got to want this positive change in yourself strongly enough. This is the most important aspect of learning how to build self confidence.

Attempting activities, and being successful in them is the overall system for building self confidence. The practicality of actually doing this is scary. When we attempt things that we aren't sure we can do, we feel fear. My point: If you don't want this confidence badly enough, your fear will get the better of you.

To achieve fantastic, lasting change in our lives, we must prove to the universe that we deserve it. 

Fear is usually what we must overcome to prove ourselves worthy of this change. If you can overcome fear, that makes you courageous. It makes you brave. 

Courage and bravery are quite literally the keys to success in learning how to gain confidence. 

Before attempting something that you lack confidence in, you might worry that you'll fail; that you won't be good enough. If this worry/ fear is able to stop you from attempting what you currently lack confidence in, then you aren't ready for more confidence yet. This rule applies to all areas of self improvement.

To have more confidence, you have to want it enough that you are willing to break the fear barrier. For example, you have to be willing to push through the fear of speaking in front of those people. You have to be willing to break your fear of performing badly at that sport. You've got to be prepared to bust open your fear of people laughing at you.

How to build self confidence: Become willing to prove to the world (by jumping life's hurdles) that you want this positive change enough. Do things, even if you're scared of doing them.

4. Faking high confidence

Learning how to have confidence can be a self fulfilling prophecy. When you pretend that you've got self confidence, by 'acting' confidently, you actually start to feel more confident!

How to build self confidence: Get yourself to do the things that you lack confidence in. Act as if you've already got high confidence. 

When pretending to be confident, you'll notice the following positive changes in your life:

So how do confident people act?

I'm currently writing about that, so be sure to check back for updates! Check out some of my other articles on how to build self confidence below.

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