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Your Cause of Anger -
Certain Parts of Your Life

Aspects of the way you live your life are the cause of anger in you. It is the same with everyone. In the next 60 seconds, you might well discover the exact parts of your life that are anger causes.

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Your mind's negative view of parts of your life
= your cause of anger

cause of anger There are aspects of your life that your mind is NOT happy with.

When the mind is unhappy about something, it voices it's frustration through the emotional feeling: anger.

So, your anger's cause is hidden somewhere in the way you are living.

Once you know what your cause of anger is, you can fix it. Learning this stuff will eventually cure your anger. I promise. smiley face

So, let's discover your personal cause of anger...

Take a quick look over the following parts of your life:

Answer Yes or No...

1. Family life. Do you have enjoyable relationships with your parents, siblings, kids etc?

2. Social life. Do you have friends you can rely on? Friends you can have a laugh with? Friends you can just enjoy being with?

3. Intimate life. Are you enjoying your relationship? If not in a relationship, are you happy to be single?

4. Working career. Do you enjoy your job? Are you passionate about it? Does it challenge you? Are you earning enough money to do more than just pay the bills?

5. Free time. Do you partake in the activities that you love? Do you look forward to events that are upcoming? Do you relax enough?

6. Relationship with yourself. Do you like yourself? Is your body image positive? Do you do anything that annoys you, yet you keep doing it anyway?

If you find yourself giving a negative response to any of those 6 points, then you've just found your cause of anger. Once more, let me explain...

If you could answer each of the above questions with a "Yes", life would be pretty amazing, right? Exactly - and your mind can picture what life would be like if you could answer all of those questions with a "Yes".

Your mind knows how it wants your life to be. It can see what it wants you to become. Here's the key part: If you fail to act on what your mind really wants for you in life, the mind becomes frustrated. This frustration's emotional form is Anger.

Your definitive cause of anger

Your cause of anger is the failure to get yourself on the road of self improvement i.e. to becoming the best you can be.

In other words, the cause of anger is your refusal to be on the path of gradually making the answers to the above questions: "yes". Why?

Because by neglecting what you subconsciously want to become, you are growing your mind's frustration. Remember, if you've got frustration, you've got anger.

The solution to anger is simple to explain, yet challenging to implement: Strive to improve the areas of your life that frustrate you. If you do this on a day-to-day basis, your mind will have nothing left to get frustrated about. Thus, you will weaken and eventually lose your ability to get angry.

How to actually beat your anger

Ok so we've discussed the cause of anger's 'big picture'. You know the outline of what you need to do. Now you need to know exactly how to do it.

You must first work out what is currently stopping you from improving the areas of your life that are anger causes. There must be something currently stopping you - because otherwise you'd be already be well on your way!

Nine times out of ten the reason that you haven't yet improved your life in certain areas is FEAR of failure. Yeah, we people have the crazy habit of being scared to attempt improving our lives in case we 'screw it up'.

how to overcome fear When you can admit and then courageously push through the fears that stop you improving areas of your life, you earn the right to undo your mind's anger.

Pushing through fear gives to you the ability to stop anger.

Here's an example.

I used to get angry with myself because even though I love soccer, I didn't play it. I love the game, yet I refused to play it. My refusal to give my mind what it wanted (for me to play soccer) caused frustration in my head. This frustration became my cause of anger.

I understood that to overcome this frustration and to beat this anger, I would have to play soccer. Why wouldn't I play in the first place then? Fear of failure. In order to stop my mind making me angry about this, I had to push through fear to persue self improvement.

Here's a clearer example.

I used to work a job that I was not passionate about. I could tell that there was no future in that job for me. The day to day bore of working that unchallenging job made my mind frustrated. This was my cause of anger.

To get rid of that anger, I had to quit the job and follow my passion: helping improve other people's lives. So what stopped me pursuing this passion before? Fear. I was scared of having no income. At the time of writing this, I've had no income for 4 months. I'm actively pushing through the fear of running out of money. My pushing through this fear has cured anger in that area of my life.

Anger is a good thing

Anger alerts you to the fact that something needs improving about your life. That nasty feeling of being angry is your mind's way of showing you that something is wrong.

Anger makes it clear which areas of your life you must improve to make you happier. Although anger is unpleasant in 'the right now', you can find strength in knowing that it does have a positive purpose.